By Laura Snyder
If you've managed to keep your sex life set on a low, but steady, simmer, you've got no reason for complaint. But when you want to bring your passion to a full boil, here's how you can really turn on the heat. Is it getting warm in here?
Heat It Up Hint #1: Toy With Him/Her
Relive the childhood joy of the toystore -- fuzzy handcuffs, lickable lotions, or battery-operated options galore. If shopping makes you uncomfortable, try out something simple and close to home: satiny blindfolds build a sense of suspense, a silk scarf has a myriad of sexy uses, and popping an ice cube in your mouth can have some interesting reactions, as well.
Heat It Up Hint #2: Hands Off
Make a no-hands nookie rule. Explore each other's bodies with whatever you want - lips, tongues, hair, breath - but keep your hands off. Fooling around without the use of your fingers will force you to get creative. You might be surprised by what you come up with.
Heat It Up Hint #3: Sweeten the Deal
Feed each other a few aphrodisiacs. Chocolate, for example, actually contains trace amounts of the same chemical, phenylethylamine, that's released by your pituitary gland when you're falling in love. Even though most aphrodisiacs are unproven, the simple act of sharing food - okay, licking it off each other -- will surely boost your bonding.
Heat It Up Hint #4: Pillow Fight
Great sex is all about angles - what part of his body hits hers and where (geometry hasn't been this much fun, well, ever). That's why pillows can be the best sex prop out there. Use 'em to hold yourself up in some positions or support him or her in others. You'll be surprised how many variations of sensations you can achieve, even in your old stand-by sexual positions, with just a cushion.
Heat It Up Hint #5: Get Coy-tal
Sometimes playing shy is hotter than being the knows-every-trick sex god or goddess you are. Tonight, hold out on your honey, making him or her have to coax you out of your clothes, into bed, and into having their way with you. Playing hard to get is a game you'll both win.
Heat It Up Hint #6: Take Your Time
When's the last time your sack session lasted longer than thirty minutes? Thought so. If your usual carnal customs are a kiss here, a grope there and then moving right on to the main attraction, try letting a little expectation build with some extended foreplay. But don't stop there. Once you've finally let your lovin' loose, don't settle for your usual tried-and-true positions. Switch things up and let your dirty deeds endure.
Heat It Up Hint #7: Reveal a Racy Fantasy
In addition to enhancing intimacy - which can do nothing but improve your relationship in and out of the bedroom - sharing your naughty little fantasies can burn up those bed sheets. Start out mild, if you're nervous, and let your lover's reaction be your guide to unleashing your most x-rated desires. But don't worry - you don't have to act out all those wacky whims. Often, just talking about it will be enough to heat things up.
Heat It Up Hint #8: Lose - or Take - Total Control
Make the first move, if you're usually the one responding to your honey's advances. Or be coy and play the lust object if you're used to be the sexual aggressor. It's just as much fun being worshipped like the sex god or goddess you are as it is to be the one wielding the power in your passion play.
Heat It Up Hint #9: Scout New Locales
Ever wonder why vacation sex seems so much hotter than your regular, old Tuesday night romp? Well, it may be the margaritas, but it's also the allure of a new locale. Fortunately, you don't have to book a ticket to Tahiti to enjoy that same boost in passion. Book a night in a local bed and breakfast, or, if you're going really low-budget, make out like teenagers in the backseat of the car.
Heat It Up Hint #10: Take a Deep Breath
The 'O' in the Big O should stand for "oxygen," because without it, you won't reach the highest heights of pleasure. Take a minute to make sure you're not holding your breath on your climb to the top. Or experiment with your breathing: breathe in sharply before you hit your high note and then exhale slowly while climaxing, making it seem to last longer.
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If you've managed to keep your sex life set on a low, but steady, simmer, you've got no reason for complaint. But when you want to bring your passion to a full boil, here's how you can really turn on the heat. Is it getting warm in here?
Heat It Up Hint #1: Toy With Him/Her
Relive the childhood joy of the toystore -- fuzzy handcuffs, lickable lotions, or battery-operated options galore. If shopping makes you uncomfortable, try out something simple and close to home: satiny blindfolds build a sense of suspense, a silk scarf has a myriad of sexy uses, and popping an ice cube in your mouth can have some interesting reactions, as well.
Heat It Up Hint #2: Hands Off
Make a no-hands nookie rule. Explore each other's bodies with whatever you want - lips, tongues, hair, breath - but keep your hands off. Fooling around without the use of your fingers will force you to get creative. You might be surprised by what you come up with.
Heat It Up Hint #3: Sweeten the Deal
Feed each other a few aphrodisiacs. Chocolate, for example, actually contains trace amounts of the same chemical, phenylethylamine, that's released by your pituitary gland when you're falling in love. Even though most aphrodisiacs are unproven, the simple act of sharing food - okay, licking it off each other -- will surely boost your bonding.
Heat It Up Hint #4: Pillow Fight
Great sex is all about angles - what part of his body hits hers and where (geometry hasn't been this much fun, well, ever). That's why pillows can be the best sex prop out there. Use 'em to hold yourself up in some positions or support him or her in others. You'll be surprised how many variations of sensations you can achieve, even in your old stand-by sexual positions, with just a cushion.
Heat It Up Hint #5: Get Coy-tal
Sometimes playing shy is hotter than being the knows-every-trick sex god or goddess you are. Tonight, hold out on your honey, making him or her have to coax you out of your clothes, into bed, and into having their way with you. Playing hard to get is a game you'll both win.
Heat It Up Hint #6: Take Your Time
When's the last time your sack session lasted longer than thirty minutes? Thought so. If your usual carnal customs are a kiss here, a grope there and then moving right on to the main attraction, try letting a little expectation build with some extended foreplay. But don't stop there. Once you've finally let your lovin' loose, don't settle for your usual tried-and-true positions. Switch things up and let your dirty deeds endure.
Heat It Up Hint #7: Reveal a Racy Fantasy
In addition to enhancing intimacy - which can do nothing but improve your relationship in and out of the bedroom - sharing your naughty little fantasies can burn up those bed sheets. Start out mild, if you're nervous, and let your lover's reaction be your guide to unleashing your most x-rated desires. But don't worry - you don't have to act out all those wacky whims. Often, just talking about it will be enough to heat things up.
Heat It Up Hint #8: Lose - or Take - Total Control
Make the first move, if you're usually the one responding to your honey's advances. Or be coy and play the lust object if you're used to be the sexual aggressor. It's just as much fun being worshipped like the sex god or goddess you are as it is to be the one wielding the power in your passion play.
Heat It Up Hint #9: Scout New Locales
Ever wonder why vacation sex seems so much hotter than your regular, old Tuesday night romp? Well, it may be the margaritas, but it's also the allure of a new locale. Fortunately, you don't have to book a ticket to Tahiti to enjoy that same boost in passion. Book a night in a local bed and breakfast, or, if you're going really low-budget, make out like teenagers in the backseat of the car.
Heat It Up Hint #10: Take a Deep Breath
The 'O' in the Big O should stand for "oxygen," because without it, you won't reach the highest heights of pleasure. Take a minute to make sure you're not holding your breath on your climb to the top. Or experiment with your breathing: breathe in sharply before you hit your high note and then exhale slowly while climaxing, making it seem to last longer.
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