All relationships will experience their share of sexual cold fronts and everyday hassles that chill even the hottest of sex lives. Still, if you're finding yourself saying, "I've got a headache," more often than not, it might be time to get over it.
Here's how to crush your most common cop-outs.
"But I'm so tired."
True, sex does take effort and energy. But it creates it, too, in the same way that you often feel better after a workout, no matter how much you dreaded walking into the gym. Plus, the important connection that you'll create with your partner will make you all the more relaxed and ready for a restful sleep.
"I'm just not in the mood."
Try it anyway! Women are more likely to respond to what's called "situational desire" rather than "independent desire". Meaning that, unlike men, she doesn't get turned on and then act on it, the actions are what inspire the turning on. The solution? Lots of foreplay.
"I'm still mad at you."
Don't allow sex to become a weapon or a tool in power struggles. While "giving in" to sex when you're in the middle of a conflict can be hard to do, it's important to send the message to your partner that you're not going to let your differences get in the way of your union. Your relationship is bigger than this one fight.
"Can't we just watch TV instead?"
Don't allow yourselves to just drift into a Law & Order induced celibacy. It's time to get off the couch and have a real date. Doing something new together - even if its just trying out that caf� down the street you've never been to - can reboot your sex drives by boosting the levels of dopamine in your brain.
