You know he's all wrong for you. You know it's going to end in tears (yours) and empty promises (his). And you know you should just say no. So why are you still so addicted to dating the bad boy?
Here's why bad boys make you feel so good...
You're a Drama Queen
Maybe your life is reliably boring...safe friends, nice job, predictable routine. The bad boy represents everything you may want, with all that excitement and danger. You can live vicariously through him and have a ride the emotional rollercoaster your relationship will surely be. The biggest slip you'll make is mistaking misery for passion.
You Want Some Shock Value
Some women use a bad new boyfriend the same way others use a dramatic change of wardrobe or a shocking new haircut - they want people to sit up and take notice. You're ready for people to think you're the kind of gal who's up all night partying...not watching the History channel. But, my bad girl wannabe, you're cashing in on his cool credentials...and when he goes, they'll go with him. You can find a more interesting life without risking your heart to this guy.
You're On the Rebound
The questionable charms of the bad boy are no more alluring than when you've just been dumped. You need to prove to yourself that you're desirable and exciting - and prove to your ex that guys far more interesting than him think you're amazing. Which might work... until your bad boy crushes you under his motorcycle boot and you're suddenly dealing with rejection again.
You Actually Think You Can Change Him
Wait, wait, don't tell us, you're special, right? You're the only one who really understands him? You're the only one who sees his vulnerability? And if you can just hang in there, he'll realize all this and love you forever. Reality check! Your forgiving martyrdom just rewards his bad behavior. And no, he won't thank you. Just leave you for someone else.
You're Misunderstand His "Charms"
Many women make the mistake of confusing emotional unavailability with emotional complexity. He's so screwed up, sending mixed signals, with so much crazy going on that he must be more interesting than someone who has their life together. Except that all that baggage is really exhausting, not fascinating or romantic.
