Child and family experts say it's completely normal to miss your kids when they go to camp.
Here are a few tips for dealing with "kid-sickness":
_Remember this is good for your kid. While camp is a time for fun, it's also a growing-up experience. Bob Ditter, a child, adolescent and family therapist in Boston, says parents often comment to him how their children change at camp _ in good ways. They learn to problem-solve and develop social skills. They often come home willing to take on more responsibility.
_Do your homework. Researching the camp _ and understanding more about its staff and inner workings _ will help you cope better. What's the camp's mission? What activities are planned? How do counselors handle such matters as homesickness and getting along? And what sort of medical staff is on hand? Take a tour beforehand, if you can.
_Keep communication upbeat. It's fine to say "I miss you." But when writing to your child, avoid saying things like, "The dog misses you, and the house is so empty." Ask about activities at the camp and new friends. "If parents focus on the positive, I think it helps kids feel better about being there," Ditter says.
_Keep busy. Your kids will have a lot to do while they're away, which helps them with homesickness. Plan some things to do, too. Pick up an old hobby, catch up with an old college roommate or plan a trip you might not take with kids.
_Discuss your "kid-sickness" with another adult. Talk to your spouse or a friend if you're having a hard time having your kid away. Very likely, you're not alone. Remind yourself why you sent your child to camp. Experts also say these separations are good preparation for the day your kids leave home for college or work.
_Forget the Internet webcam. Experts say you send the wrong message to your kids if you need to constantly monitor them. They need to know that you trust them to make good decisions. By stepping in, you also undermine the camp staff's credibility. Bottom line: If you don't trust the camp, don't send your kid there.
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(Sources: Bob Ditter, Boston-based child, adolescent and family therapist; American Camp Association)
